The Most Effective Way To Get Someone To Join Your Cause

One of the easiest ways to lose your passion about your calling is to spend all your energy arguing with people who are skeptics.

I’ve been giving this a lot of thought because I’ve seen it played out many times. I’ve done it myself.

I think Satan instigates it on purpose. He would rather see Christ-followers arguing about what someone else should spend their time and resources and life on instead of actually directing their energy toward actually living it themselves.

When God is moving in a particular area in my life, it’s hard to see anything else. It can create tension when I want it to be equally important in the lives of my friends and family. I’ve come to realize that just because my passion might be something I believe strongly is a mandate for everyone, it doesn’t mean I have to do the work of the Holy Spirit in someone else’s life.

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The most effective way to get someone to join your cause? Live it yourself with crazy abandon. The least effective way is to shame people who don’t share your convictions.

There is a tension there, to be sure. I don’t know how it should play out in every circumstance, but I do know the people who have had the biggest positive impression on my life are the ones who answered their call and dove in. They shared their stories openly and their lives made the case to join them. They directed their energy toward doing instead of convincing the unimpressed.

My friend, Shelley, committed her own money to cover any fundraising shortage in order to  bring a Feed My Starving Children mobile pack to Franklin, TN . We watched God miraculously provide the funds to cover the mobile pack. That made a huge impact in how our family looked at our finances. We weren’t shamed into it. We saw what God was doing and wanted to be a part of it.

Have you experienced this? Good or bad? I would love to hear from you.


Motherhood Isn’t Your Highest Calling

I used to think motherhood was my highest calling. I don’t anymore.

I know people say it with great respect for the role of being a mom. I appreciate that. But I’ve spent many years struggling with what it means to be a “good mom” and often felt like I was in a position where I was failing at my calling. I felt like I had looked forward to being a mom my whole life, but when I actually became one, I found out I was really bad at it. How does it feel to carry the weight of failing at the highest calling a woman can have? Not good.

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For many years, I wore my calling like a heavy weight around my neck. I felt guilty that I felt restless in this “highest calling”.

I read something a few years ago that made me evaluate my picture of my calling and how that fits with being a mom. The back cover of Max Lucado’s “Cure For The Common Life” says this “God made only one version of you. He custom designed you for a one of a kind assignment. Cure for the Common Life helps you discover how your ability unveils your destiny. . . and how to find your uncommon call to an uncommon life.”

I started to realize that my highest calling wasn’t to succeed at my stereotype of a “good mom”.

Do you think it’s possible that we’ve painted a masterpiece of expectations that’s not at all what God intended and excludes things He never asked us to exclude?

When Jesus was asked, “What is the greatest commandment?” He didn’t say, “Stop doing all the things that brought you joy before and concentrate on housework and changing diapers.”

I was acting like He did.

Author, Bob Goff, says it perfectly:

I think God’s hope and plan for us is pretty easy to figure out. For those of you who resonate with formulas, here it is: add your whole life, your loves, your passions and your interests together with what God said he wants us to be about, and that is your answer. – ” Love Does”

Some seasons of parenting require  great personal sacrifice, but the calling of motherhood doesn’t have to mean giving up your gifts and passions. Have you discovered this? Yes, motherhood is a high calling, but the highest calling? You’ll find that where your life circumstances and your passions meet.